We are in our 70s and have a very good marriage of over 45 years, but I am losing patience with my husband because he refuses to help me when I can’t hear what he’s saying.
We still try to communicate from different rooms – which is my fault as well as his – but problems arise when I miss a word because I don’t catch the first letter. He chooses, on the second or third repeat, to shout rather than, for instance, use another word or rephrase what he’s said.
幼女视频在线视频He claims he can’t just change the way he speaks, but he knows I get upset and angry when he shouts. So please suggest a way I can convince him that, of course, he can alter his behaviour; he just needs to try.
Deborah, London N2
幼女视频在线视频Join the club. Hearing starts to deteriorate in most of us from around the age of 50 (Boots recommend everyone has a hearing test every two years after their half-century). I know that the earpieces I wear when I’m hosting TV programmes are turned up a lot higher than they were 20 years ago. And my wife and I say “What?” and “Say again?” to each other more frequently than we used to.
To be fair, it is irritating to have to keep repeating what one has just said. It shouldn’t be, but it just is – so don’t be too hard on your husband. If I’m frank, it sounds to me as if you’ve got to the stage where a discreet hearing aid might be the cure-all solution, at least when you’re at home.
幼女视频在线视频You can get hearing tests in many high street pharmacies – they should have good protective measures in place, or you could just hold on for a while until the virus has passed – and there are simple online checks, too (just Google “hearing tests”).
幼女视频在线视频Once you’re assessed, you can buy an over-the-counter hearing aid. They’re tiny these days, and there’s no shame or stigma involved. Why should there be? We put on reading glasses when we get older, don’t we? Why not a hearing aid? Beethoven would have killed for one!